Every once in a while I notice that I’ve built up emotional gunk from just everyday life. I try my best not to, by being true to myself and expressing my feelings as they are; by trying not to shove things under a carpet, only for them to be discovered later.
I’ll be honest, that doesn’t work in all situations and there are times when I have no clue about what I’m doing. So my formula is not really foolproof…neither is life!
When I find myself being impatient, angry or ready to cry at the drop of a hat, I know it’s time for a fix. More often than not I know what exactly has caused a pile up and I need to release it – either by having a long pending conversation with the person involved or by sorting out my thoughts and feelings. It’s a process…but it works for me.
I find the conversations part simple. I just come clean and make it a point to be open to what the other person has to say. Sometimes we can get on the same page, sometimes we agree to disagree, and that’s okay with me. All that matters is that at the end of the conversation we both know what to expect from each other should the situation arise again.
The part where I need to sort out my thoughts or feelings is a little more difficult, because if it cannot be resolved through a conversation it usually is a situation that’s out of my control. By this point, I’ve exhausted my mind worrying about it… I desperately need a release or my head will explode from all the worries and fears that I’ve caged in it!
Here’s what I do, and it works like a charm… I blow up some balloons and write on them every little worry, every little fear I have regarding the situation. I don’t care about how silly I sound or what words I use. I just need to get it out of my system. I write on as many balloons as I need to, and when I have flushed everything out of my mind I let the balloons go. It’s fun, makes me feel lighter and gives me a clean emotional slate.
It also reminds me that I cannot control certain things or allow my fears and worries to weigh me down.
We all have unique ways of dealing with emotions or releasing them. What are yours?