Let it go! Let it go! Let it go!

Every once in a while I notice that I’ve built up emotional gunk from just everyday life. I try my best not to, by being true to myself and expressing my feelings as they are; by trying not to shove things under a carpet, only for them to be discovered later.

I’ll be honest, that doesn’t work in all situations and there are times when I have no clue about what I’m doing. So my formula is not really foolproof…neither is life!

When I find myself being impatient, angry or ready to cry at the drop of a hat, I know it’s time for a fix. More often than not I know what exactly has caused a pile up and I need to release it – either by having a long pending conversation with the person involved or by sorting out my thoughts and feelings. It’s a process…but it works for me.

I find the conversations part simple. I just come clean and make it a point to be open to what the other person has to say. Sometimes we can get on the same page, sometimes we agree to disagree, and that’s okay with me. All that matters is that at the end of the conversation we both know what to expect from each other should the situation arise again.

The part where I need to sort out my thoughts or feelings is a little more difficult, because if it cannot be resolved through a conversation it usually is a situation that’s out of my control. By this point, I’ve exhausted my mind worrying about it… I desperately need a release or my head will explode from all the worries and fears that I’ve caged in it!

Here’s what I do, and it works like a charm… I blow up some balloons and write on them every little worry, every little fear I have regarding the situation. I don’t care about how silly I sound or what words I use. I just need to get it out of my system. I write on as many balloons as I need to, and when I have flushed everything out of my mind I let the balloons go. It’s fun, makes me feel lighter and gives me a clean emotional slate.

It also reminds me that I cannot control certain things or allow my fears and worries to weigh me down.

We all have unique ways of dealing with emotions or releasing them. What are yours?

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warrior_soul

I spent a good part of my life thinking of myself as a lost soul, and was surprisingly okay with it. I even used to publicly tease myself for being one. And then, one day, my soul decided that it was not okay with being lost... not anymore. I'm not sure if I should call it a quarter-life-crisis or simply realizing that I had to "grow up", but at one point, everything around me seemed like it was crumbling down - my job, my relationships, my self-esteem and literally everything that I could think of. I clearly remember the three days I could barely get out of bed, even to get food and water! I lay in bed thinking that I'd done it this time...pushed myself too far and gone to a place that I could never return from. I'd hit rock bottom. Like everybody says, when you hit rock bottom, the only way is up. And up I came... It wasn't easy and it took every ounce of my being, but I made it, and I'm proud of it. I now think of myself as a warrior, a warrior of the mind and of the soul. In this blog, I'll tell you more about my journey and how it has led me to a place where I can be at peace whilst fighting those everyday battles of the mind. I'll tell you more about what has worked for me, and what hasn't...what kept me going in those times of hopelessness and fear (I now see how these were self-inflicted!). It's my hope that somebody out there will be able to relate to all or some of it and that I can serve as a reminder of the fact that it always gets better. Always does.

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